Microaggressions are statements, behaviors, or acts, whether intentional or unintentional, that discriminate against those from marginalized groups (Google).
For example:
“I don’t see color.”
“Your English is really good.”
“You’re not like other [insert demographic here].”
“You’re pretty for a [insert demographic here].”
“Where are you really from?”
Statements like these, as well as microaggressive behaviors, are veiled, racist acts that worm their way into everyday situations. They can be extremely prevalent on predominantly white campuses like Millersville. But just because they are “micro” doesn’t mean they don’t significantly impact those receiving them. Here are 5 tips to consider the next time you encounter them.
- Seek Support
If you are a victim of microaggressions on campus, or any form of racism for that matter, seek support from those around you. Have a conversation with your advisor, professors, or someone from student affairs. They are here to help you and can support you in taking the appropriate next steps.Reach out to your family and friends so they are aware and can be there for you during this process. Don’t go through it alone.
If the microaggression came from a faculty or staff member, seek help directly from faculty in your community. Black faculty have a lot of experience in academia and have most likely experienced what you are going through. The same goes for Queer or other marginalized groups. Use them as a resource. You can also contact the special offices on campus, like the Black Student Union. They are well-equipped to help you.
- Breathe
Experiencing microaggressions can be extremely traumatizing. While it is ok to get angry, cry, and feel your feelings, you need to take care of yourself, physically, mentally, and emotionally.Take deep, long breaths to regulate your breathing. Go outside and take a walk. Go to the gym. Write. Meditate. Pray. Listen to music. Whatever healthy outlet you have at your disposal, use it. And do not be afraid to reach out to mental health services, both on and off campus. There is zero shame in this.
You deserve to be supported. Let others help you.
- Prioritize Long-term Peace
[Disclaimer: Only confront others if you feel it is safe to do so. Do not put yourself at risk.]It is not normal or ok to feel uncomfortable or invalidated on campus. If someone is discriminatory towards you, it is ok to call them out and let them know their behavior is unacceptable.
You can use statements like:
“That was hurtful and made me feel uncomfortable.”
“That is an inaccurate stereotype, and I am offended by it.”
“Please refrain from using that type of language. It is inappropriate and insulting.”
“I felt invalidated when you said that.”
“That was rude, and I would appreciate it if you did not do that anymore.”You have the right to use your voice and speak up for yourself, as long as it doesn’t compromise your peace, and you are physically safe.
There is also nothing wrong with removing yourself from a situation. If you need to walk away, do so. There is no shame or judgment in that. Prioritize yourself and your peace
Extra Resources:
https://www.nytimes.com/2020/03/03/smarter-living/how-to-respond-to-microaggressions.html
https://www.millersville.edu/counsel/services.php
https://afsp.org/mental-health-resources-for-marginalized-communities/